femininity

People will sometimes ask, what are the best and worst aspects of being a woman? Some will automatically guess, child birth or something similar is the worst aspect, the best being something like multiple orgasms. Caught off-guard by this question, I never knew how to answer, until now. I would think the act of giving life, and being a mother, is probably the best aspect. This will be confirmed at some point in my life, but right now, that's my guess.

The worst aspect, I've concluded, is being underestimated. I've felt the repercussions of this, professionally, as well as people (including those close to me) being quick to judge and unwilling to listen. The cultural notion that causes this is fueled by some women who I'll tag as "drama queens" and others who complain about trivial things and whine about problems they invent for themselves.


Women also tend to be caddy, which adds to the falsity that we are "too emotional" and "irrational." Even women in power attack each other without remorse. I'm an Obama fan, but was surprised to hear Michelle Obama's response to Hillary Clinton's accusation that Barak Obama doesn't know how to run the country... Michelle Obama responded with something along the lines of "If you can't even run your own home, how do you expect to be able to run the country?"

To the women out there:

Stop complaining. If you have air in your lungs, clothes on your back, and food in your stomach, you're in good shape. Be strong. Don't be discouraged by anyone who tells you, you can't. You can. Don't seek out or cause unneccessary drama. There are more important things in life to occupy your time and cognitive ability.

Pictured above is Mary, Sub-Saharan. Painting by Mckenzie Ditter.